I’ve learned so much about the perception of single parenting, so much about how women (especially) are perceived. Let’s state the facts a lot of people say “You’re so strong” then deliver something riddled with pity. There are countless backhanded compliments and tiptoeing as if i’d crumble at the slightest situation. Too often, when making plans the question is “Are you bringing the baby?” heres the thing, I’m ALWAYS bringing my daughter with me. As a single mom with no help from her father, she goes with me where I go, this is not to say that if it were inappropriate she would join me however as long as it is appropriate she will come with me.
Anywhere I go, she comes with me, this exposes her to social settings and in time she’ll understand how to act in different settings and it also exposes her to people and different surroundings. In different settings i’m able to teach my daughter how to conduct herself, i’m able to teach her how to act in public, I’m able to get her used to being in situations that she’s not used to like being at home. I’ve been so blessed with a daughter who already does so well socially, so as long as she needs to she’ll be coming with me.
Many may think my daughter might get in the way but heres the thing, my daughter isn’t in the way, she is the way. My daughter made way for my evolution as a woman, my daughter made way for a new found strength, my daughter made way for a new sense of love, that I both give unto others and unto my self. My daughter is truly light and love personified so why wouldn’t I want her with me.
With one present parent, bringing my daughter with me is never going to be a problem, she is going to be with me for as long as she needs to be. She is always going to be my plus one and i’m unapologetic about it. There’s no shame, there’s no reason for me to feel apologetic and there is no reason for anyone to pity me. Often times it’s not that I couldn’t find a babysitter or that i don’t have “help” it’s that I didn’t look for the babysitter and don’t need the help.
